Historic Day for Gays, but Twinge of Loss for an Outsider CultureIt's an interesting dilemma for homosexuals: getting what you demand vs. losing your Victimhood and Messiah status when you do get what you demand. Homosexuals will need something else to replace the loss of the special Class War designation which has defined them. They will have to either find a different Victimhood status to bestow upon themselves, or possibly create more hate crimes to prove that their old Victimhood status is still intact.
"But even many who raced to the altar say they feel loss amid the celebrations, a bittersweet sense that there was something valuable about the creativity and grit with which gay people responded to stigma and persecution.
For decades, they built sanctuaries of their own: neighborhoods and vacation retreats where they could escape after workdays in the closet; bookstores where young people could find their true selves and one another. Symbols like the rainbow flag expressed joy and collective defiance, a response to disapproving families, laws that could lead to arrests for having sex and the presumption that to be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender was shameful.
Lisa Kron, who wrote the book and lyrics for "Fun Home," which features a young lesbian girl. “The thing I miss is the specialness of being gay,” Ms. Kron said. Credit Walter McBride/Getty Images
“The thing I miss is the specialness of being gay,” said Lisa Kron, who wrote the book and lyrics for “Fun Home,” a Broadway musical with a showstopping number sung by a young girl captivated by her first glimpse of a butch woman. “Because the traditional paths were closed, there was a consciousness to our lives, a necessary invention to the way we were going to celebrate and mark family and mark connection. That felt magical and beautiful.”
Ms. Kron is 54, and her sentiments seem to resonate among gay people of her generation and older. “People are missing a sense of community, a sense of sharing,” said Eric Marcus, 56, the author of “Making Gay History.”
“There is something wonderful about being part of an oppressed community,” Mr. Marcus said. But he warned against too much nostalgia. The most vocal gay rights activists may have celebrated being outsiders, but the vast majority of gay people just wanted “what everyone else had,” he said — the ability to fall in love, have families, pursue their careers and “just live their lives.”"
The loss of Victimhood represents a return from rebellion and distinction, back to non-differentiation: non-eliteness. How will homosexuals choose to rebel now? I suspect that many will discover that they are suddenly straight, now that there's no rebellious advantage to being homosexual, no specific Class separation to shove in people's faces. But many others will need an all-new rebellion in order to differentiate themselves from cis-sane people.